i can't make decisions. it sounds silly, but it's true. i have this intense fear of making decisions. i don't know if i had some experience in the past where i made a decision and for some reason it was the wrong one and made someone mad....i don't know where it comes from, but i simply cannot make decisions now. i'm petrified of making a wrong one and making joe, or anyone else for that matter, mad.
it all came to a head last night. joe and i went to this nice italian restaurant here in town. everything was great until he asked the fateful question: do you want dessert. i kind of did, but i'm not one to speak my opinion first. so i asked him what he wanted. he said he didn't really feel like dessert, so at that point there's no way i would say that i did. that would be a "wrong" decision.
when our waitress came by, joe asked me again and i got really flushed and embarrassed and said, "whatever you want." then i got mad at him for trying to embarrass me because he knows i can't make decisions. and the fact is i know he would never, ever try to embarrass me. the point to this long and rambling story is i need to learn to make decisions. joe says to just start making them, but that's easier said than done. i wonder if there's any kind of baby-step thing for this type of problem.
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Making my own decisions is WAY too much responsibility! I’m just the same. And there’s also the added factor that if somebody else makes the decision for you and it’s the wrong one, it’s their fault and not yours, lol! I’m so awful, but such a wimp!
ReplyDeletei’m no good at it either, now, Steve on the other hand is the one you should learn from. He has no trouble, because if you do make the wrong decision, you can always make a new one!
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